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Front - Heavy Mettle - They may have trouble reading and spelling,
but those with the grit to overcome learning disabilities like
dyslexia emerge fortified for life
People Magazine, October 30, 2000
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big kid with a big voice growing up in Phillipsburg, N.J.,
in the 1950s, Don Winkler loved singing in church. Unfortunately,
he would peer into his hymnal and belt out the wrong words.
Instead of "Praise God," he might sing "Praise dog." Or "Paris
to the Lord." Everybody "thought I was a cutup," says Winkler.
He wasn't. And he wasn't slow or lazy either, as some may
have suspected. Winkler, now 52 and CEO of Ford Motor Credit
Company, had--and still has--a learning disability. He is
one of the many successful Americans who have struggled with
and ultimately overcome dyslexia or an allied affliction such
as attention deficit disorder. Experts say that of the estimated
54 million students who returned to classrooms this fall,
as many as 15 percent may have learning disabilities. Though
school can be an ordeal, these children are often very bright.
It's just that "the wiring of their brains is different,"
says Sally L. Smith, founder of the Lab School in Washington,
D.C., and a pioneer in teaching the learning disabled. And
quite a few should go on to fulfill great dreams, as did such
corporate titans as Winkler, Cisco Systems CEO John Chambers
and uberbroker Charles Schwab--dyslexics all. Many great achievers
see their supposed handicap as a spur. "It's a blessing in
a way, if you can overcome it," says novelist Fannie Flagg,
one of six success stories we profile on the following pages.
Paul Orfalea Kinko's plucky founder
What saved a curly-haired boy nicknamed Kinko from despair
was his own cockiness and a mother and father who refused
to accept his teachers' insistence that their son was as dumb
as a stone. "Without my parents," says Paul Orfalea, 52, "I'd
be a skid row bum right now." Try millionaire's row: Orfalea--whose
undiagnosed dyslexia led to his having to repeat grades, expulsions
and a stint in a school for retarded children--was smart enough
to coax the small Santa Barbara, Calif., copy shop he started
in 1970 at an old hamburger stand into Kinko's international
chain of more than 1,100 stores. Not bad for a kid who could
barely read and who well remembers the day a junior high school
administrator told his mother, Virginia (now deceased), "Maybe
he could enroll in a good trade school and learn to lay carpet."
Still, he managed to scrape through high school, he says,
with a low D average, and then navigate through the University
of Southern California with a similar lack of distinction.
Orfalea stepped down this year as Kinko's chairman and still
lives in Santa Barbara with his wife, Natalie, 44, and scouts
for new business opportunities. His hard-won advice to fellow
dyslexics is simple: "God gave you an advantage. So work with
your strengths."
Fannie Flagg A fan letter opened her eyes
It was a TV viewer who in 1978 unearthed the problem Fannie
Flagg had kept from the world--and herself--for 35 years.
Flagg, 57, the bestselling author of Fried Green Tomatoes
at the Whistle Stop Cafe and Broadway star of The Best Little
Whorehouse in Texas, was then appearing on the quiz show Match
Game. She would misspell words she had to write out as part
of the game, making jokes to disguise the fact that she could
no more spell than fly. One day Flagg got a letter from the
viewer, a teacher. "You do so well, even though you have dyslexia,"
she wrote. Flagg was flabbergasted. "I thought, 'What is that?'"
she says. "I got tested, and it turns out that I was severely
dyslexic and had ADD [attention deficit disorder]. I just
thought I was dumb."
As a child, Flagg wanted to write but despaired when teacher
after teacher told her a bad speller could never become a
novelist. Yet one did say to Flagg, "You're very good at talking,"
and that single remark gave the sixth grader wings to act
and write. "She helped me feel I wasn't so bad," says Flagg,
who lives in Santa Barbara, Calif., and is writing her fifth
novel. "People call it--and I always laugh--'the gift of dyslexia,'"
she adds. "I don't know if it's a gift, but it is a character
builder."
Tom Gray From obnoxious to Oxford
His oral discussion of the German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche
helped him win a prestigious Rhodes Scholarship last December.
Little did the esteemed nominating committee know, however,
that Tom Gray couldn't write the philosopher's name legibly,
never mind spell it. That's because the 23-year-old College
Park, Md., native has dysgraphia, a disorder characterized
by disorganization, terrible handwriting and an inability
to spell. "I wanted to present myself with no handicaps, no
bump-ups," says Gray of his decision to keep mum about his
disability. "There's always a fear that you'll be judged more
harshly for that."
He should know. Though articulate and a precocious reader,
Gray, the only child of a retired lobbyist and a former high
school guidance counselor, could not draw letters or simple
stick figures in third grade. "My teachers thought I was either
lazy or lacked academic ability, and it created a vicious
circle," says Gray, who compensated by becoming a class clown
and bully. "It made you want to act out even more, brag more,
constantly shout to the heavens, 'I am smart, I am a good
person.'"
A turning point came in high school, when a psychotherapist
finally diagnosed Gray with dysgraphia and attention-deficit
hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Since then, with the help of
Ritalin and understanding parents and teachers, he has gone
on to become a National Merit Scholar and a magna cum laude
graduate of Amherst College. "You can't understand light until
you understand darkness," says Gray, who this fall began his
Rhodes studies at Oxford. "The hardest experiences I've ever
faced have given me the greatest strength."
Ann Bancroft Inspired by an adventure story
As a young girl, polar explorer Ann Bancroft was enthralled
by Endurance, the story of Ernest Shackleton's heroic 1914
Antarctic expedition. Not even her dyslexia, diagnosed in
seventh grade, could quell her dreams of crossing the frozen
continent herself. School was a torment, says Bancroft, 45,
but it was her disability, ultimately, that forged her iron
will. "It's given me strength," she says. "I feel lucky, and
I couldn't say that as a child."
Now the first woman to cross the ice to both the North and
South Poles starts out on her dream journey. In early November
she and Norwegian explorer Liv Arnesen, 47, plan to take off
from northern Antarctica's Queen Maud Land in hope of becoming
the first women to ski across the continent--covering 2,400
miles in about 100 days, pulling sleds, each carrying 250
lbs. of supplies (including 50 lbs. of high-fat potato chips
to help maintain their weight and energy).
For her first polar expedition in 1986, the former gym teacher
from Scandia, Minn., kept her dyslexia to herself. This time
she will broadcast it online to grade school students in 38
countries-- teaching them, as they track her journey, to follow
their hearts. "I get to talk about being crummy at math and
I still get to navigate," jokes Bancroft, adding that counting
fingers works "just fine, as long as I don't freeze them!"
Talking to some learning disabled kids 14 years ago at the
Lab School of Washington (D.C.) was an epiphany. "'What am
I ashamed of?'" she recalls asking herself. "These were fantastic,
brilliant, exciting people. I decided to give it voice."
Charles Schwab He read the comics
Charles Schwab runs one of the world's most successful brokerage
firms but doesn't like talking about his dyslexia. "This stuff
is a giant stigma," says Schwab, 63. "I only do it because
I'm hopeful that other people will recognize it in their children
and get some help." In fact, it was not until one of his five
children (whose privacy he wishes to preserve) was diagnosed
as dyslexic in the 1980s that Schwab learned the reason he,
too, had struggled with words all his life. "It was like deja
vu," he says.
Ever since, Schwab has made raising awareness of learning
differences his mission. In 1988, he and his wife, Helen,
55, founded the Schwab Foundation for Learning, now endowed
with $280 million in assets, to provide parents with practical
information and strategies on everything from diagnosing at-risk
children to preserving a child's self-esteem. Schwab favors
the term "learning differences" over "disabilities" because
it is more inclusive. He lobbies for greater understanding
of the variety of such differences, insisting, "Not all kids
fit the same cookie cutter."
He certainly didn't. The son of an assistant district attorney
and a homemaker, Chuck Schwab grew up near Sacramento and
struggled with reading and memorization in school. As a teen,
he says, he depended on classic comic books for his literary
education. But his deficit caught up with him in the 1950s
at Stanford University, where he says he was admitted, despite
low SAT scores, on the strength of his golf game. He was soon
flunking English. "It was pretty devastating," he recalls.
Schwab didn't dwell on his shortcomings. Instead, he gave
rein to a thinking style he says allows him to conceptualize
ideas quickly and make creative leaps that more sequential
thinkers don't. In 1974, a few years after starting Charles
Schwab Co.--now worth $35 billion- -he turned Wall Street
upside down by discounting commissions. Without diverse thinking
styles like Schwab's, "the world wouldn't have some innovations
it has," says Alexa Cortes Culwell, executive director of
the Schwab Foundation. "He's living proof of that."
Troy Brown Still running against the odds
Delivering a commencement address at tiny Rust College in
Holly Springs, Miss., in 1990, comedian Bill Cosby, who had
just been awarded an honorary humanities doctorate, suddenly
threw the audience a curve. "Where's the young man who drove
us here?" he said, scanning the auditorium for the 27-year-old
alumnus who had chauffeured him to the ceremony. When the
young man, then a master's candidate at a nearby university,
made his way onstage, Cosby gave him a surprising introduction.
"Troy Brown is dyslexic," he announced. Then, knowing that
Brown was planning to pursue a doctoral degree, he handed
him the ceremonial purple-and-white stole he had just received
and said, "I want Troy to wear mine along with his."
Brown was stunned. Aware that the performer's son Ennis also
suffered from dyslexia, he had disclosed his disability to
Cosby only that afternoon. "All the way up through college
I'd kept this secret," says Brown. "And this guy had just
told the whole world!" Since then Brown, now 37, has gone
on to become a university dean of student affairs and a major
figure in Mississippi politics. But he has never forgotten
the humiliations of his childhood in Rockford, Ill., where
he, his parents and younger brother settled after migrating
north from Mississippi in 1971. There, classmates called him
"Troy Brown, the dumbest boy in town," and he was ashamed
of having been placed in a special-education class. "People
kind of snickered," he recalls today. But at home his mother,
Edna, now 69 and a retired teacher (his father, Harold, died
in 1982), tutored her son. "Every night he would go to bed
with a stack of books," she remembers, "and try to read them
until he fell asleep." In high school Brown compensated for
low grades by becoming a varsity linebacker, only to see his
college dreams dashed by injury. The day before he was set
to enlist in the Army, his Baptist minister persuaded him
to enroll instead at Rust, where a professor soon diagnosed
Brown's dyslexia. "That was one of the happiest days of my
life," he says. "I finally knew that what was wrong with me
had a name."
Brown labored through his undergraduate and master's programs.
"What may take the average person an hour took me two and
a half," he says. But now married to wife Curressia, 33, a
law and business professor, and the father of Troy Jr., 10,
Brandice, 6, and Khari, 2, he plans to take his doctoral exam
in education next month. November will mark another milestone:
the general election in which he's running for the U.S. Senate
as Mississippi's Democratic candidate against incumbent Trent
Lott, the Majority Leader. Brown is well aware that the odds
against him are terribly long but remains undaunted. "My life
has always been an uphill struggle," he says, "and this is
just the latest in a long line of struggles."
Writers: Christina Cheakalos, Bruce Frankel, William Plummer,
Susan Schindehette Reported by: Alice Jackson Baughn in Itta
Bena, Miss., Lorna Grisby in Dearborn, Mich., J. Todd Foster
in College Park, Margaret Nelson in Minneapolis, Edmund Newton
in Ventura, Calif., Lyndon Stambler in Los Angeles.
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